Relationships
Changing statements from "you" to "I"
For each scene below, change the blaming “you” statement, into a feeling “I” statement.
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Your teacher asks you to redo a report for the fifth time.
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Instead of: “You’ll never be happy with anything I turn in!”
Try: “I feel ________ when you __________ because I’ve already tried my best.”
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Your brother’s music is so loud that you can't study.
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Instead of: “You only think about yourself!!!”
Try: “I feel _________ when you ________ because I can't do my homework. Please turn it down.”
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You just found out that your friend told a secret.
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Instead of: “You’re such a fink!”
Try: “I feel ________ when you ___________ because I wanted to keep that between you and me.”
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You sit down to watch a movie with your boyfriend, but he turns on football, again.
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Instead of: “You don’t even care about me!”
Try: “I feel __________ when you don’t ask me what I want to do.”
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Last updated December 2007
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